I am so excited about this audio! It is Everyday Wisdom by Wayne Dyer. I’m not sure how it came to me but I am compelled to share it with you. I have been listening to this amazing wisdom daily for about ten days and I have become quite attached. I hope you enjoy!!
So what is radical gratitude anyway? Basically, it’s being thankful for absolutely everything in your life.
Most of us long for more than what we have in this life. We want more money, a better job, a more loving romantic partner, more success, a bigger house, the list goes on and on.
We seem to think that if we have more of what may already exist in our lives, we will become happier people. It simply doesn’t work that way. There are a multitude of people who seem to have it all and are still unfulfilled and miserable.
The reason for this is lack of gratitude for what they do have. If you aren’t truly grateful for what you have right now, how can more of anything change that? More will never be enough simply because you do not feel blessed by what you receive and have already received.
In her book Gratitude, A way of life, Louise Hay says “By the time I have gotten out of bed, I have probably expressed gratitude for 80 to 100 different people, places, things and experiences in my life.”
Is this kind of radical gratitude even possible?
I posed a gratitude challenge in my post How to live a happier life – 13 actions you can take today, where I asked readers to join me by keeping a gratitude journal for thirty days. The goal was to record three different things each day we were thankful for which would equal 90 things at the end of the month.
I imagine coming up with just three things to be grateful for is daunting for some people, but 100 before even getting out of bed? Wow!
Impressed with the thought of being that grateful, I was inspired to extend myself. I decided that if I applied myself, I could be grateful for 100 things, as long as I had the whole day to do it. Here is how it went:
5:15 am Radical Gratitude before I get out bed.
Thank you bed for a comfortable nights sleep.
Thank you pillow for cradling my head. I sleep on a My Pillow. I absolutely love it!
Thank you flannel sheets for your softness and warmth.
Thank you Universe for this perfect day!
Thank you Yoshi for the good vibrations. Yoshi is my cat. He is purring.
5:30 am. Radical Gratitude while I get ready for work.
Thank you Kombucha for nourishing my body.
Thank you for this wonderful hot coffee.
Thank you Louise Hay for introducing me to Mirror Work.
Thank you Happy Light for providing my morning light therapy on these dark winter mornings.
Thank you Rebecca Campbell for your playlist of soul inspiring music.
Thank you for the bracelet that reminds of my brother, who is no longer of this Earth.
Thank you for the earrings that remind me of my sister, purchased on an amazing girls weekend in Estes Park, Colorado.
Thank you green smoothies for changing the way I eat breakfast.
Thank you for the under counter kitchen fan installed by a friend and former romantic partner.
Thank you for the crescent moon shining in the sky this morning.
Thank you for the stunning pink and orange clouds shrouding the sunrise over the lake.
Thank you for the organic lip balm protecting my lips from the cold.
Thank you for the reliable car that gets my son and I safely where we choose to go.
Thank you for the 36-year-old garage door opener, that still works! It’s a Craftsman.
Thank you to the woman who let me out in traffic during my commute this morning.
8:00 am Radical Gratitude after arriving at work.
Thank you to my cat’s veterinary office for the compassionate sympathy card personally signed by everyone.
Thank you for the low utility bills this month.
Thank you for the support of good friends.
Thank you for my community of fellow bloggers.
Thank you for my paying gig, even when I would rather be writing.
Thank you for a quiet, comfortable office to work in.
Thank you for the windows in our office space.
Thank you for the lunchtime bonding with my co-workers.
Thank you cell phones. Seriously, I have a super computer in the palm of my hand!
Thank you for Facebook groups.
Thank you that I no longer feel like sleeping every afternoon.
Thank you for interesting projects to fill my day.
5:00 pm Radical Gratitude when work is done.
Thank you for heated seats in my car.
Thank you for the computer software I needed being gifted to me.
Thank you for the salt lamp I wanted being gifted to me.
Thank you for the wild bald eagle seen perched in a friend’s tree.
Thank you to everyone who put up outdoor Christmas lights. Beautiful.
Thank you to the person who let into their lane at the accident on 56th Street.
Thank you for my well-lit parking area.
Thank you for my son’s birthday smile.
Thank you for my Keurig.
Thank you for Echinacea tea.
Thank you for the Christmas cat coffee cups I got for $1 last year.
Thank you for my leather chair.
Thank you for my soft warm throw blanket.
Thank you Lilly, for sitting where I can pet you. The other cat.
Thank you Yoshi for my evening hug.
Thank you Eli for doing your homework on the third time I asked instead of the eighth.
7:00 pm Radical Gratitude in my evening hours.
Thank you for my rebounder.
Thank you for my washing machine that sings to me instead of buzzing.
Thank you to my sister for blowing me kisses by text message.
Thank you Eli for your Trampoline Christmas light show!
Thank you for the new Christmas tree that makes Eli’s light show possible.
Thank you for Word Chums with friends.
Thank you for A Course In Miracles. I am currently reading the text portion of the course. I will begin the student’s work book portion on January 1.
Thank you for my girls weekends in Kansas City with wonderful, fun friends.
Thank you for the beautiful handmade Christmas stockings given to us by a special friend.
Thank you for a functioning dishwasher.
Thank you for warm fuzzy socks.
Thank you for my pink Minnie Mouse pajama pants.
Thank you for guided meditation apps.
Thank you Rebecca Campbell for your sourcing meditation.
Thank you Davidji for your on-line course Secrets of Meditation. I am enjoying this very much!
Thank you for Rose Quartz crystal.
Thank you for make-up removing wipes.
Thank you for poetry.
Thank you for my Chromecast.
Thank you for You Tube.
Thank you Angels.
Thank you Spirit guides.
Thank you for my kitchen trash can pull-out.
Thank you for the cute cat hole in my closet door that leads to the litter box.
Thank you body for performing so many wonderful functions with very little help from me.
Thank you for Eli’s artwork.
Thank you for my parents.
Thank you for indoor plumbing.
Thank you for my good health.
Thank you for healing hand lotion.
Thank you for the lessons I don’t even know I’m learning yet.
Thank you for the memories of loved ones no longer here.
Thank you for the air that I breathe.
Thank you for the many ornaments made by my son Eli, that adorn our beautiful Christmas tree.
Thank you for Canva, which will make the images of this post possible.
Thank you Pinterest, where I find many of my quotes.
Thank you for Google, my very favorite search engine.
9:00 pm. Radical Gratitude before falling asleep.
Thank you for the sleeping state that will mend and rejuvenate my body.
Thank you for the dreams that come, even if I don’t remember them.
Thank you for the stars in the night sky.
Thank you for my night-time wrist brace.
Thank you for new experiences.
Thank you for each new day.
Thank you for every opportunity to learn something new.
Thank you for the peace and love in my heart.
Thank you for quiet neighbors.
Thank you for an incredibly dark bedroom.
Thank you for nature and the wind I hear outside my bedroom window.
Thank you for the miracle that is me.
Thank you for the miracle that is you.
Thank you God!
There it is!
Definitely not an easy task, but absolutely possible. If I can do it, you can too. I bet it will become easier with time and practice.
Smile, hugs and Thank you for reading!
Have you ever suddenly been attracted to someone famous and you just couldn’t figure out why? Maybe you’re not into all this celebrity hype, but then, one day you just feel like you want to know more about that movie actor, musician, author, artist or athlete?
You aren’t alone and it is easier than ever to find news and information on just about anyone. Knowing you can trust that information to be true and accurate is another issue entirely.
I was recently “star struck” by a very well-known movie actor. Not since I was a pre-teen, with posters on my bedroom walls, have I had a real celebrity crush. Sure, we all have favorite celebrities and I do too, but there wasn’t anyone I felt compelled to find out more about.
My recent crush is Keanu Reeves. It didn’t turn out to be a crush so much, although it definitely felt that way for a while. I was eventually able to view my being drawn to him as my stepping off point to spiritual growth and becoming more self-aware.
The Universe was giving me a mirror to look into. And no, I certainly do not consider myself a female, non-famous version of this man, but we do share some attributes and he definitely exemplifies other characteristics I wish to expand in myself.
And, seriously, this guy is an amazing human being. I must have been living under a rock. Even though The Matrix may be my favorite movie ever, I didn’t know anything about the star beyond his roles in film.
Keanu Reeves has experienced some very deep trauma and pain in his life. Some of what he has endured reflects my own life experience. He has managed to come through the other side of his personal tragedy a better person. I am extremely happy to say that I have too.
There are people who become bitter when exposed to hardship and there are people who decide to numb their pain however they can. I believe exceptional people learn and grow through all life experiences to become more compassionate and empathetic souls.
Keanu Reeves is an exceptional person. He is also known for being kind, thoughtful and incredibly generous. He is an introvert and a loner, two things I can definitely relate to. And although I consider myself to be reasonably intelligent, I have a feeling, Reeves’ intellect would blow me away.
Did you know that Reeves is not only an actor but also a published writer. His first book, Ode to Happiness was published in 2011. His second book, Shadows became available in 2016. Both books are a collaboration between Reeves, who wrote the text, and artist Alexandra Grant.
I own and love Shadows, an artsy collectible, with short poems by Reeves paired with photos taken by Grant. Reeves also happens to be the subject of the photography. Definitely a bonus! I missed out on Ode to Happiness, but would graciously accept a gift copy if anyone has one to give up.
Keanu Reeves seems to have a knack for turning his passions into his livelihood. One of his passions is motorcycles and in 2012, he founded Arch Motorcycles with friend Gard Hollinger. In 2017 Reeves, along with Alexandra Grant, Jessica Fleischmann and Florence Grant founded X Artists Books, a small art book publishing company.
I latched onto him just as I was about to embark on my latest spiritual awakening. Learning about him helped me to achieve a deeper learning of myself and my worth. I was also turned on to other individuals, through him, that helped me continue on my journey.
I have always believed that God, or the Universe if you wish, provides whatever or whomever you need to gently push, or violently shove you down your true path. You know the saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” This could not be more true.
This is also not the first time I have manifested the appropriate “teachers” into my life. It just happens to be the first time one of them has been a famous actor.
Now that I feel more spiritually aware myself, I can’t help but notice similar awareness in others, literally everywhere. It is like a light has been turned on. I can see the connection in movies, hear it in songs, read it in books.
Celebs, in particular seem to exude spiritual knowledge and abundance. This makes perfect sense to me. Creativity and spirituality have a very obvious connection the way I see it. If you follow what lights you up, the creativity will flow.
Our favorite celebrities became famous by chasing their joy, living their passion. They have walked through the fear involved with being in the spotlight for doing what they love. We can choose to see them as a shining example of what is possible for each and every one of us.
Thank you Keanu Reeves.
We are constantly being drawn to the truth about who and what we really are. Of course, the closed, sleeping mind will not realize this. Once you are awake or have opened your heart and mind to why we are here on Earth, life may start to look a bit different to you.
Everything around you may take on new meaning. You may begin to see, on a much deeper level, the impact of the movies you watch, the books you read, and the music you listen to. Your preferences may begin to transform as well, becoming more in line with your true authentic self.
I want to share with you a look back at the very early origins of my own journey. There were always signs, events and preferences drawing me toward my ultimate goal. Even though I only truly awoke to our purpose recently, I can now see how I was consistently being shown the way throughout my life.
Remember to look to your past and your childhood as you answer these questions. That may be where you find the most connection and meaning.
1. What is your all time favorite song?
Music moves us. It is something we connect to very deeply in many cases and what we are attracted to may say something significant about us.
I never have to think about my answer to this question. It is a given for me. I had my favorite song tattooed on my hip when I was twenty years old. The name of the song, not the lyrics! It is the only tattoo I have and I can still cry when I hear the song, some thirty years later. It touches my heart in a very deep way. My song is “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel.
Back in the nineties, before my ex-husband and I were married, we attended a Peter Gabriel concert in Phoenix, Arizona. We had eighth row seats, I believe, and it was amazing! When he sang my song I cried like a baby. My ex wanted to know why I was crying. All I could say was “I always wanted to feel this way (about someone).”
I didn’t know the truth of my why. My sleeping mind believed, as most of us would, that someone external might provide this feeling for me someday. I now know that is unlikely to happen. This depth of emotion can only be found within.
I now believe this song to have a more spiritual meaning that I just couldn’t see back then.
2. What is the best book you have ever read?
I love to read! Reading is knowledge and I want to continue to learn every day of my lifetime. I read non-fiction almost exclusively now, but when I was younger, fiction was definitely my thing.
My favorite book of all time is “The Talisman” by Stephen King and Peter Straub. I first read this book around age nineteen or twenty and have re-read it a few times since.
I now see Jack’s quest to find the talisman as a spiritual transformation journey. A journey experienced in multiple realms, where Jack was required to walk into his fear and face his demons. All the while he was receiving divine guidance and protection.
Wolf is a favorite character in this story. His famous quote is “Wolf! Right here and now!” Could this be a not so subtle message about staying present? Below are quotes I found from each author, just for fun:
3. What is your favorite movie of all time?
Super easy question for me. The Matrix. Written and directed by the brilliant Lana and Lilly Wachowski and starring Keanu Reeves. Released in 1999, the special effects were ahead of their time, but it was the story that captivated me.
The timing of this film was impeccable with the internet really starting to take hold. I felt the story was incredible and yet credible at the same time. One part of my mind (the ego) doesn’t want to believe anything like this is possible, but another part (the soul) knows that is.
And, of course, Neo is on an epic spiritual journey in The Matrix, which seems to be a theme for my favorite things in life. This movie is the ultimate story of spiritual awakening.
I was thirty-two when it was released eighteen years ago and there has not been a film since that has grabbed hold of me like this one.
4. What was your favorite television series ever?
I really had to put some effort into this one. We watch so much TV and there are so many shows to choose from. Although I have a couple of currently running favorites, I took my own advice and looked to my past to find my answer. The X Files. Absolutely.
Again I see the struggle of ego versus soul in this story, but brought out by the individual characters in the series. Scully represents the ego to me. She is the smart, practical, closed mind that has to see it to believe it. Mulder represents the seeking soul here. He instinctually knows things he cannot see with his human eyes. He lives his life based on his intuition.
As the series progressed Mulder and Scully learned to work together and rely on each others strengths. Not at all unlike the process of the awakening soul’s struggle to convince ego of what it refuses to believe and create conditions where soul and ego can learn to work together toward a common goal.
5. How did you express your creativity as a child?
When I was a teenager and young adult, I wrote poetry. A lot of poetry. I was never published, I just wrote to retain my own sanity. I did briefly consider becoming a journalist around the age of thirteen or fourteen, but it faded out.
It seems all of my life I have turned to the written word to get me through the most difficult of life’s challenges. From journaling, to letters, to prayers, yes, I often put my prayers on paper. I write to express my emotions. I write to ask for guidance. I write to release my fear. Writing is my default mode.
Yet, I didn’t consider myself a writer, not until recently anyway.
6. What do you collect?
I think most people collect something. I’m not a pack rat. I have moved so many times in my life, I know how to purge! That said, I do hang onto a few keepsakes due to their sentimental value and I have a few collections as well.
What defines a collection? Let’s say, for the sake of this article, that a collection is a group of five or more items that relate to each other in some identifiable way. As far as clothing is concerned, I would say, overall, it is not a collection, however, if you have a shoe fetish, are crazy about handbags or have twenty cardigan sweaters, that might count.
I have a collection of Austrian leaded crystal animals. 1988-2008
I have a collection of cat statues and figurines. 1988-present
I have books. I purge them, but it is difficult for me, and some always make it back into the collection. I have many waiting to be read and would love to have a small library area to keep them stored and displayed.
I love shoes. I have been purging these lately as well, but still have way more than is necessary.
I have a Pandora type bracelet. I suppose the beads qualify as a collection. 2010-present.
My newest collection is healing crystals. I’m learning more about their energy and properties everyday and I have been using them to enhance my meditation practice. 2017
Obviously I am an animal lover, cats in particular. Cats are Zen masters who share their energy and high vibration with us. I love that cats can physically manifest their vibe by purring. Check out my post 6 things cats know about mindfulness and awareness.
Unknown to me when I started collecting, Austrian crystals are often used to clear energy blockages. I guess those will be coming out of storage!
Shoes, it seems can symbolize both paired-ness and the ability to stand up and walk forward. Books represent, for me, knowledge, wisdom and the longing for continued growth. The bracelet beads, which each represent something “me”, is a subtle presentation of myself to the world. Coming from a very private person, it might be a significant statement.
7. Are you drawn to a certain stone, crystal or gem?
Diamonds are a girl’s best friend, right? Not always the case, but if you happen to be captivated by the Diamond, there may be a reason why.
The Diamond is a crystal of Light, a symbol of perfection and illumination. It has been known since antiquity as a “Stone of Invincibility”, bringing victory, superior strength, fortitude and courage to its wearer.
Although I wore Diamonds while I was married, this stone has always seemed to be the sidekick of other gems in my life. The reason may be that I require only a small bit of the Diamonds energies added to the larger energy I require from another crystal or gem.
I believe a certain type of stone may “call to you”, drawing you into its energy field. I also believe that the crystal you require for growth can “find” you or seek you out. This may happen for you when you receive a piece of gemstone jewelry as a gift.
The first crystal to look at in your story is your birthstone. Each birthstone will have specific qualities and attributes that say something about you. crystalvaults.com is a great source for researching this information.
In my post What your Favorite Stones and Gems say about your Journey, I talk more about this subject and share some of the crystals and gems that have influenced my own spiritual journey.
8. Who was your very first spiritual teacher?
Yeah! You’ve made it to the final question. Let me start by saying that a spiritual teacher doesn’t have to be a practitioner of any “woo woo stuff.” Your first spiritual teacher may have been a parent, child, friend, professor or someone you met for only a brief encounter, but who left a very lasting impression on your soul.
My first spiritual teacher was a friend. She was my soul sister and one of the most fascinating human beings I have ever met. We met when I was fifteen years old and she led me on a journey that shaped the person I am today.
We dabbled a bit in the “woo woo stuff”, just enough, perhaps, to provide me a base to come back to later in life. She taught me some of my first lessons in unconditional love. That we can love each other despite our differences. That “family” doesn’t have to mean “blood”. We can create our family to include whomever we wish.
Wherever this amazing woman led, I followed. As I followed, I learned and every turn seems now to have been only in my own best interest. Without question, she directly influenced my career, where I have lived and the people I have met.
Our journey together, here on Earth, lasted seventeen years. And even with her passing from this physical world, she was guiding me to life choices I would not have made otherwise. She continues to visit me in my dreams and I am so very grateful for her continuing presence in my life.
Smiles and Hugs to you!
I am always delighted to both see and hear a variety of creatures when I walk in nature. Some are repeat visitors and others, well, it can be difficult to tell.
The black squirrel pictured above is one of my favorites. Why do I favor him over the other neighborhood squirrels? Because he is different! I know it is him when I see him. It’s like he is oozing that “over here, look at me, I stand out in the crowd” kind of vibe.
Shouldn’t we all have that vibe? Why try to blend in when we were clearly created to stand out? I am unique. I am the only human being who can be me. You are also unique, one in 7.3 billion (give or take a couple) and the only human being who can be you.
Let’s start celebrating who we are instead of hiding it. Being a little different (or a lot), isn’t a flaw, it’s a blessing. You are the amazing miracle of you. No one else can do that job. It is all yours and always will be.
Smiles and Hugs.
Once upon a time, I was easily wounded by what I perceived as another’s rejection. I was all too willing to take everything personally. The slightest comment, or lack thereof, could be considered a deliberate attack.
My ego was, and still is, capable of creating scenarios completely blown out of proportion and based on events that have not actually taken place. I lived my life from a place of fear.
I was afraid of being abandoned, not being good enough and winding up alone. I was so consumed by my fear that I stopped speaking my mind. I kept my mouth shut, acting as if I had no opinions whatsoever.
I had been avoiding conflict for many years in an effort to keep the peace and be likeable. I had become everyone’s doormat! And no one knew the real me. She was hidden from the world.
On the outside I was strong, smart and capable. On the inside, I was a crumpled mess. That is the story of how ego works. The ego is your self-image, the you that you present to the world, and it is an excuse making machine! Here are some of the things my ego told me:
Strong, confident women don’t wear their emotions on their sleeve.
I am better than they are, so there is no need to argue.
I am patient, tolerant and kind. There is no need to hurt someone’s feelings by expressing what I really think.
Everyone has a right to their own opinion and views. It is not my job to judge.
Now, that might not sound so bad, right? Not if it is your ego doing the talking. The ego tells you what you want to believe to keep you in your place. The ego is afraid of change.
Inside of me was a mountain of repressed emotion that was about to become a volcano of spewing anger, judgement and self-loathing. I had embraced becoming the victim.
It oftentimes seems, that as human beings, we gravitate toward the negative. Rather than take responsibility for our actions, feelings and emotions, we want to blame, complain and stay the same.
I am not the same person I was six months ago. In fact, I am dramatically different. I have discovered the “bigger voice” inside of me. My soul-self is awake and I am allowing her to take charge.
Everyone wants to know what the “one thing” is, the key to happiness, the secret to life. I know that secret. The “one thing” is self-love. There is no stronger force for creating joy than learning to love yourself.
You can consciously practice gratitude, forgiveness and self-care with positive results even if you haven’t truly achieved a great level of self-love. My article Soul Growth tells of my journey and some of the tools that got me here.
It’s difficult to explain and I know my old self would have had a difficult time grasping the notion, but with self-love comes clarity. The clarity to see what an amazing creation you are and everything and everyone else is too.
The practice of gratitude and forgiveness takes on a new life as well. It seems to come naturally to me now, without so much effort. There is so much more to be thankful for and so much less that requires my forgiveness.
I now know that strong, confident women are not afraid to show their emotions.
We are all equally perfect in our divine creation regardless of how we express ourselves.
I AM patient, tolerant and kind, but that does not mean I have to keep my mouth shut. My opinions matter. The feelings of someone else are their responsibility and, quite frankly, none of my business.
Just as I believe everyone else has a right to their opinions and views, so do I. It is not my job to judge anyone else on what they believe and it is not their job to judge me. My feelings can only be hurt if I believe what is implied.
My journey has been amazing and I look forward to all the future holds for me. A word of caution, however, would be that although I love the changes that have taken place and I am deeply grateful for the awakening, it is not always a comfortable place to be.
You still have to feel your emotions, in fact, possibly on a much deeper level than before. I know, for me, I have good days and bad days, just like before. Now, however, my good days are fabulous and my bad days are, well, not so tragic.
My ego can still get the best of me. My soul-self usually prevails if I use my tools. I always have to keep working. If I let my spiritual practice slide, I will fall back asleep.
So I keep practicing, I keep learning and I keep evolving. With every day I am able to do this, the world becomes a brighter, friendlier place, where we can all be ourselves, we are all connected and we are all enough, just as we are.
Smiles and hugs!
We all have divine guides waiting and willing to help us along our path here on Earth. But how can we open ourselves up to receive this blessed help? And who, exactly, are our guides anyway?
I was struggling with these same questions, so I took a class. Yep, there was a class available, right here in my town, called Hearing your Divine Guidance, taught by psychic medium, Dr. Sandra Monroe. Here is some of what I learned from this class and other research:
Our divine guides can, and probably do include our deceased loved ones, our deceased ancestors from generations past, personal guides that have previously lived their own Earth lives, and Angels. Cool, right?
The first thing to know is you do not have the power to connect to your guides. They must come to you and you have to invite them in. Ask them for guidance.
The next is that spirit needs energy in order to connect. Everything is energy and we are no exception. It is possible to receive guidance from higher or lower vibration guides, so you want your vibration to be as high as possible to receive your best, most divine messages. Check out this great post for more information on this.
There are a few things you can do to clear your energy to help your guides connect with you.
Drink lots of water. This keeps you hydrated and flushes toxins from your system. A cleaner diet can also help with this. Eliminating fast foods, processed foods and anything containing hormones or pesticides is always a good choice.
Physical exercise raises your vibrational energy making connection easier. Practicing gratitude and smiling also raise your vibration.
And finally, my personal favorite, is to meditate. By quieting your mind and slowing your thoughts, you give your guides the opportunity to sneak their message in.
Your receptors are your six psychic senses. Yes, I said six, because your mind is actually your sixth sense, your intuition or inner wisdom, so to speak. Paying attention to what your psychic senses tell you is the key. Let’s explore each of them a little further.
Clairvoyance is the most widely known and means clear seeing or clear vision. This is when you receive your guides messages visually.
Clairvoyance is not received through your physical eyes, but through your minds eye. Some refer to this as your third eye. The message may come to you as a vivid, complete picture or it may be very subtle, such as seeing only a number or symbol.
Clairaudience means clear hearing. This is the inner hearing of things outside the common field of awareness.
This can take the form of spirit voices, which may sound very much like your own voice, music or other sounds. It can be difficult, at times, to distinguish between the guide’s message and your own thoughts. I’m told this becomes easier with practice.
It is possible for clairaudient messages to be external as well. This can happen if your guides really want to get your attention and fast. Try not to shake this off. Follow your guidance. This is likely important.
Clairsentience is clear feeling. This is not necessarily when you just know something, but when you actually feel it.
Maybe you feel a cool breeze but no windows are open or you feel as if someone has stroked your hair.
It’s possible you may be able to feel the emotion being presented to you as well. This would also be clairsentience.
Not as common as those above, clairalience is clear smelling. It is pretty self-explanatory.
Occasionally you may smell your deceased grandfather’s cologne or the pipe tobacco he smoked. If there is no one else around, my guess is Grandpa wants you to know he’s there for you.
Also rather uncommon is clairgustance, or clear tasting. This would be tasting something without having actually put anything into your mouth.
Claircognizance is when you intuitively know something but have no idea how or why you know it. This your sixth sense!
It can be the strong impulse you get to take a different route to work today or when you suddenly know to call your friend because she needs you.
I think we can all relate to this one. I’m sure you all have experienced this at least once.
Okay, so now we know we can clear our energy, pay more attention and try to hone our senses to allow for better connection with our spiritual guides.
One super easy way to ask for guidance from your angels and spiritual guides is to use Oracle cards. You shuffle your deck while concentrating on what you want to know. Ask your angels and guides for help and then pull one, three or five cards.
The deck I use, shown in the photo above, is Angel Therapy Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue. A guidebook for reading the cards is included.
If you want to go a step further. Try getting a reading from a psychic medium. My girlfriend and I attended the Mystic fest in Omaha, Nebraska yesterday. This was a fun event where we experimented with a few different types of readings.
We both received and were impressed with a connecting with your deceased loved ones reading. Dr. Sandra Monroe, mentioned above, was our psychic medium of choice and she was wonderful. I definitely recommend this if you worry about your loved ones and wish to know they are okay. They are!
We both tried a tarot card reading as well. The psychic medium we chose seemed very in tune to our respective personalities and did a great job. I think my friend enjoyed this reading a bit more than I did.
My friend tried a past lives reading. She was not impressed with this one. This was not a regression and no hypnosis was involved. It was a thirty minute reading and unfortunately, she didn’t feel a strong connection with her reader.
I tried Reiki for the first time. This is a life force energy technique used for relaxation, stress reduction and healing. My practitioner also asked that I be sent guidance for my spiritual path.
I enjoyed the treatment and was able to feel some energy flow but not as much as I expected. When the treatment was over, however, she warned me to get up slowly and remain on the table until I recover.
I’ve heard this from massage therapists after treatment and was expecting a similar experience.
After having only been on the table for ten minutes, I sat up slowly and honestly could not believe how dazed and unsteady I felt. Something definitely happened to me while I lay on that table.
I have yet to receive the guidance my practitioner promised but, then again, something told me I should write this post.
I hope you have fun with this. I did. And a big “Thank You” to my good friend for sharing this with me.
Smiles and hugs!
Being grateful for the good things in your life is one thing, but have you ever considered expressing gratitude for the things you aren’t so happy about? Let’s explore this concept together.
In my post How to live a happy life – 13 actions you can take today, I invited you to take a thirty-day gratitude challenge, where you would list three different things you are grateful for, each day for thirty days. If we look at our lists I’m guessing we will find mostly pleasant experiences and things that make us feel really good. That’s fabulous, but now, let’s go a little deeper.
What happens when we become grateful for those not so wonderful feeling experiences and people in our lives? Miracles happen!! Trust me, it is pure magic.
So you might be asking, how exactly am I supposed to be thankful for stuff that makes me feel lousy? Well, to start out, you don’t have to actually feel it. Fake it, if you have to. The more you practice, the better you will start to feel about it. Eventually, you will begin to believe it and before you know it, miracles!
My belief is that we are spiritual beings having a human experience here on Earth. We are here to learn, however, that part of us that is human, has allowed us to forget our purpose here and even that we are, at our core, spirit.
Spirit wants to know contrast. Without knowing pain, how could you know comfort? Without first experiencing fear, how could you experience courage? Without the feeling of grief, you would not be able to know delight. Without sadness, there is no happiness. Without blame, there can be no forgiveness. This list goes on and on and on.
In the book, The Language of Letting Go, Melody Beattie writes, “One simple concept can get us through the most stressful of times. It’s called gratitude. We learn to say, thank you, for these problems and feelings. Thank you for the way things are. I don’t like this experience, but thank you anyway. Force gratitude until it becomes habitual. Gratitude helps us stop trying to control outcomes. It is the key that unlocks positive energy in our life. It is the alchemy that turns problems into blessings, and the unexpected into gifts.”
In the book, Gratitude A Way of Life, Louise Hay writes, “We even want to be grateful for the lessons we have. Don’t run from lessons; they are little packages of treasure that have been given to us. As we learn from them, our lives change for the better. I now rejoice whenever I see another portion of the dark side of myself. I know that it means that I am ready to let go of something that has been hindering my life.”
Life on Earth will know conflict and opposition as long as we are still learning and growing. Cherish all of your moments, good and bad. Every one is required to make you who you are, and you are amazing!
Below is a great quote on opposition. I am not positive of who actually said it. It has been attributed to Winston Churchill, Henry Ford, William Wrigley Jr., and Ezra Pound. I suspect each has said it, in one form or another.
Love yourself, love your brother, love your life. Everyday say Thank You. Thank you God, Thank you Universe, Thank you Life, for everything, all of my experiences, because I know everything is a blessing, even those feelings, thoughts and experiences that don’t look like it at first.
When you are done being grateful, say “Something wonderful is going to happen today.” And it will.
Smiles and hugs!
I have loved and been owned by cats my whole life, starting at age two. I have come to some conclusions after all these years of studying their antics.
I think we humans can learn quite a bit about living life to the fullest from the cats we share our homes with. Cats are truly mystical creatures and seem to have mastered the art of just being.
They seem to know that their presence in the world is enough. Their only responsibility is to exist and share their glory with the rest of us.
So here is my list of six things cats know about mindfulness and awareness that we humans have yet to learn:
1. Cats know how to live in the present moment.
Cats aren’t worrying about their futures or reliving their pasts. They are present, right here, right now, in this precious moment. The only moment that really matters.
Cats eat when they are hungry, sleep when they are tired and are perfectly content to be still, quiet and simply observe life as it is.
Cats know how to receive love. They are blissfully there, in the now, revelling in the act of receiving your touch. They are not afraid to show you how wonderful it feels for them. What if we could that?
2. Cats know how to forgive.
Cats don’t hold grudges. I have never known a cat to withhold her love from me because I went on vacation that one time and didn’t invite her to go along. Or because I forced him into that little crate and made him go to that place where they poke him with needles. Or because I forgot, that one day, to scoop her litter box.
Cats forgive and forget. They have the ability to move on with enjoying life because their own pleasure is important to them. What if we could do that?
3. Cats always follow their joy.
Cats love to play and amuse themselves and they are capable of creating fun out of nothing at all. They don’t require expensive toys or other beings to enjoy themselves.
A cat will chase a shadow, jump at a flicker of light on the wall or hunt and capture a scrap of paper found hiding behind the chair. They never grow out of this playful nature. Cats love to play throughout their entire lives.
If you have ever spent time watching one of these incredible happiness machines in action, you know they give their all to every playtime they create and they couldn’t be enjoying themselves any more, in that moment. What if we could do that?
4. Cats trust their instincts.
Cats do not spin their mental wheels pondering what their next move should be. They instinctively know and they immediately act on those instincts.
The mind of a cat is not cluttered with thoughts of “I should” or “what will the other cats think about me if I do that?” A cat knows what he wants, in that moment, and he goes for it.
A cat has no ego, she can only be her truest, most authentic self, by instinct. And so it is.
5. Cats know the benefits of spending time in nature.
Many pet cats these days are “indoor only”, meaning they live exclusively indoors and are not allowed to go outside. There are many reasons for this, including keeping them safe from motor vehicles, if you live in the city, keeping them safe from predators, if you live in the country or keeping birds and other wildlife safe from them, which has become a concern for some.
My cats do spend most of their time indoors, however, I find it important for them to have time outside as well, sometimes to the dismay of my neighbors.
Cats are considered to be domesticated, but I can tell you, with absolute certainty, that cats are their best natural selves when outside enjoying all that nature can offer, just as we are.
My cats are not allowed to roam whenever they want and I am diligent about having them inside after dark, but they know that even a short spell outside can contribute to their overall happiness. And they are not shy about asking for it.
6. Cats embody the concept of self-love.
Cats know their worth and demand that the world take notice. You will not find a cat with self-esteem issues.
The one-eyed cat acknowledges his beauty is equal to that pure bred Persian down the street. The three-legged cat knows his power to be equal to the four-legged felines next door. And the stray, homeless kitty knows she is just as worthy of love as the pampered pet inside your home.
Oh what we can learn from our feline friends. I hope you enjoyed this post.
Smiles and hugs.
Today I am grateful for the quiet and solitude of early morning walks at the lake. For the cottonwood trees that sing to me when I walk. And for the inspiration of nature.
Today I send love and blessings to my ego.
Today I am grateful for my son’s inner wisdom and moral compass, which seems well beyond his eleven years. For a clear bright day filled with sunshine. And for Vala’s pumpkin patch, a fall tradition for us. This year I will be sharing this adventure with three pre-teen boys!
Today I send love and blessings to my inner critic.
Today I am happy and grateful for my back patio garden. For the blue jays outside my window. And for mirror work.
Today I send love and blessings to loud neighbors.
Today I am grateful for time alone. For new experiences. And for Pinterest.
Today I send love and blessings to President Donald Trump. I know that his presidency has a purpose for our planet, but I just have a difficult time wrapping my head around it.
Today I am grateful for falling leaves. For Rebecca Campbell, her book, Light is the new black, and her playlist!
Today I send love and blessings to my cell phone service. It doesn’t work in my kitchen! Ugh!!
Today I am grateful for the my journey. For my vision board. And for the fresh flowers on my table.
Today I send love and blessings to middle school kids who agitate and tease.
Today I am grateful for quiet neighbors. For the support of the universe. And for my JotterPad app.
Today I send love and blessings to all of the haters .
Last weeks gratitude journal can be seen here.
True self-love is all about forgiveness. The first and most important person to forgive is yourself. It’s important to open yourself wide and look deep inside to the shadows of your soul. Accepting and even embracing the parts of yourself that you would rather hide from the world. These parts are your true blessings. Your flaws and fumbles are what make you human and they also make you, you. This is a letter I wrote a couple of months ago.
Dear Old Friend,
I saw you in my dreams last night and today I am inspired to write this letter to confess and confide in you some truths about our past. You may never read this because I may never send it, but it must be written while I have the courage and motivation to do so.
You have always held a very special place in my heart and I believe you always will. I am so grateful to have had both the pleasure and the pain of sharing a little bit of life with you, as your friend and otherwise. I want to tell you two things. This is difficult for me to admit, even today.
Maybe you remember coming to me one night when we were in our early twenties. I was in a relationship with Russell (name has been changed), our mutual friend at the time. You were hoping for an intimate connection and I turned you away. It wasn’t because I was in love with Russell and it wasn’t because I didn’t love you. I had a secret.
I had contracted the genital Herpes virus from Russell. Of course, I wanted to protect you from that, but I was also protecting myself. This was not something I wanted to share about myself, it would have been too painful. So I chose to hide my truth. Forgive me.
Believe it or not, my next confession was even harder for me to accept. Very deep breath. I lied to you once before and it was a much bigger lie. A HUGE lie. I am so sorry. I have managed to forgive myself and hope, that in time, you can too.
There was no baby. There was no miscarriage. I am tearing up even now as I write this. I made the whole thing up. I recited this lie so many times and for so many years that I may have actually believed it myself.
The first time I admitted to fabricating this story was in therapy about eight years ago. My therapist helped me understand that I was trying to cope with how messed up my family life was at the time. My Mom was put in a nursing home at the age of forty-five and I was being shipped off to another state to live with a father I barely knew.
I loved and admired your family very much. I desperately wanted to be a part of that. So my sixteen year old mind created a family of my very own. A child that didn’t actually exist, except in my mind. A child that gave me a connection to you and to your family. Something for me to cling to when my world got turned upside down.
It was never my intention to cause you pain. I have only ever felt a very deep love for you, your siblings and your folks. I miss you all and think of you often. Finally, at age fifty, I am finding ways to heal my old wounds and get peace. I wish the same for you.
With love, your old friend,
Today I am grateful for the volunteers who run the Saturday night program at Hyde Observatory. Amazing time last night. Thank you! For my son’s great taste in friends. Outstanding kids. And for finally getting this blog live.
Today I send love and blessings to Christina (name has been changed).
Today I am grateful for Louise Hay and Hay House Publishing. For phenomenal friends who always stick with me. And for warm throw blankets. Brrr.
Today I send love and blessings to…. honestly, I don’t have anything. What a problem to have! I guess today I will be grateful for not having anyone or anything that is bothering me. So thrilled!
Today I am grateful for my comfortable bed. For cat fur in my coffee. And for audio books.
Today I send love and blessings to my Veterinary office. My kitty is sick and they couldn’t get us in until tomorrow. ☹️
Today and everyday, I am grateful to the Universe for loving me. For my black socks. Seriously, today while getting dressed, I thought to myself “I love my black socks”, so they made the list. And for the shimmer of the frost in the early morning sun.
Today I send love and blessings to myself for not always being able to practice what I preach.
Today I am grateful for any and all opportunities presented to me on this day. For the chatter of the birds as the sun rises. And for fall blooming mums.
Today I send love and blessings to whoever thought bubble gum was a good flavor for feline pain medication. Hmmm.
Today I am grateful for the hail storm that damaged the car I had purchased just eighteen months earlier. The damage was only cosmetic and the insurance money allowed me to pay off my car loan twenty months early. Today I am eternally grateful for my sick kitty finally eating a decent meal. I hope this means we will have a bit more time together. Thank you. And for a job that allows me flexibility with my hours.
Today I send love and blessings to that roofer again. He is right on the edge of breaking our legal agreement.
Today I am grateful for the colors of autumn. For the smell of autumn. And for cool breezes.
Today I send love and blessings to my former boss.
Last weeks gratitude journal can be seen here.
I originally intended for this article to be a list of fifteen actions you can take today to live a happier life, but with today being Friday the thirteenth, I thought a list of thirteen might be more appropriate. Enjoy.
1. Practice Gratitude
It is so easy to take the beauty in life for granted. It seems sometimes that we are built for negativity. Practicing gratitude can be a powerful way to realize how wonderful your life already is. It’s not always easy to feel authentically grateful, especially if things aren’t going your way. The good news is that gratitude can be learned. You can fake it until you make it.
I challenge you to practice gratitude for thirty days. Start a gratitude journal and each morning, for thirty days, list three new things in life that you are thankful for. It can be something huge like divine guidance or something small like warm socks or anything in between. If you would like to see my gratitude journal, it will be posted weekly, for a limited time, on this blog. At the end of your challenge, I would love to know if this practice improved your life and how.
2. Practice Forgiveness
Forgiveness will set you free. Holding a grudge only hurts the person choosing to hold it. Why spend your precious energy all worked up over something you can’t change. The past is done, there is no undoing it. You can’t change the fact that you have been hurt and you can’t force anyone else to change their mind or behavior. What you do have some control over is your own thoughts and actions. Rather than wallowing in your own hostility, why not change the way you think about the situation. Wish your adversary love. Pray for them.
The most important person for you to forgive, is you, and this is often the most difficult task to accomplish. If you can forgive and love yourself, you will find it much easier to forgive others in your life as well.
One good way to get started is to send love and blessings to one person or thing that is irritating you each day. This can be yourself, someone else or not even a person at all. I list mine right after the three things I am grateful for in my journal. Repetition is encouraged on this practice as it may take some time to truly forgive the hurt that runs deep. You will be training your brain by doing this practice daily and it does work.
3. Write your stories.
Start a journal. Writing can be a very powerful tool for healing. Spill your emotions and fears onto the pages in whatever way feels therapeutic to you. Write poems, write stories, write letters you will never send. Try writing a letter to God, the Universe or your higher self. If you can’t take the chance of someone finding your written words, feel free to burn the page when you are done. What is important is that you release what is bottled inside of you.
4. Learn to say no and yes.
It is time to start saying no to people, events and things that drain you of your life force. It is not your responsibility to deal with other peoples issues. Take care of yourself first. Ask yourself “Am I doing this out of love or out of fear?” For example, are you doing someone a favor because you love them and are happy to help or are doing it because you are afraid the person will think less of you if you don’t? Choose love.
It is time to say yes to your life. Yes to contining to learn everyday. Yes to new experiences. Yes to change. Yes to the things you love. Yes to your intuition and yes to the power of believing in you!
Start a daily meditation practice. I cannot tell you how much this has helped me to be present, see clearly and remain calm. We spend most of our time either dwelling on the past or looking to the future. The past is over. The future doesn’t exist yet. Now is all that matters. Meditation can teach you to focus on now. A large commitment of time is not required. You can experience the benefits in as little as ten minutes a day. There are many phone apps available for guided meditation. Play around and find something that fits your style. Give it a try.
6. Get out in nature
Go for a walk, or a run or maybe just sit under a tree. Feel the force that connects everything on this planet. Look with wonder at all that you see. Get grounded by walking barefoot on the sand or the grass. Get your toes, or your hands, wet in the stream or the lake. Listen to the wind, the birds, the gravel beneath your feet. Drink it all in. Unplug for just a little while each day. It will be worth it.
7. Do nice things for yourself
Make your happiness a priority. It isn’t selfish to take care of you for a change. In fact, I think it’s necessary if you want to stay healthy. Take the time you need to do the things on this list. You are worth it. Treat yourself to a massage or a little gift, something you’ve had your eye on. Take a class or go out with friends. Indulge in a bit of self-love.
It is better to give than to receive. It has been proven that people tend to feel better about themselves if they give to others in need. I personally believe that the more you give, the more you get. The time is always now, even if you feel like you don’t have enough to spead around. No matter what my situation is, I am generous with what I have, there is always someone else who needs more than I do. So donate your money, your time or your stuff. Feel those good vibrations!
9. Spend some time alone
This is never a problem for me. I love my time by myself. Some of you may feel the same way. There is a trick to this, though. You need to be alone without distraction. Yep, that means no television, no texting, no social media. Most people will find it extremely difficult to just be still and quiet with themselves. The reason we are uncomfortable with this is because we will be forced to listen to our own thoughts. When you engage in this practice, be kind to yourself. Remember to practice forgiveness as you do this as well.
There is no better way to become aware of your thoughts and what is truly important to you than being alone without anyone else to influence what is on your mind. If you want to expand on this experience, take a trip by yourself. Go away for a couple of days and only do what you want to do. If this scares you, you may want to ask yourself why.
10. Trust your instincts
Many of us are not willing to act on our instincts or intuition. We don’t trust ourselves. We may be afraid of failing or of what other people might think of what we are doing. Your intuition is what your soul wants, what your heart desires, it is your higher self giving you inspiration. When you ignore your intuition, you turn your back on your authentic self. Don’t feed your fears. Trust your intuition.
11. Embrace your demons
Have you hugged your demons today? We all have a dark side. If you have taken some of the actions listed above, you may be seeing some of yours by now. This is key to learning self-love. There are parts of ourselves that may be difficult to love, like, or even admit to. The first step here is awareness. What are you ashamed of? What makes you angry or sad? What are afraid to talk about openly? It may be uncomfortable to acknowledge at first, but it will become easier with time.
The next step is acceptance. No one is perfect. We all have flaws. These perceived imperfections are necessary to the human experience. They are something we all share. Without our darkness, our light would not shine. To experience wholeness you must accept all of yourself.
Finally, it’s time to embrace. Release your shame, your anger, sadness and jealousy by gently trying to see it’s source. Where does it come from? Do not judge yourself. Treat your demons with compassion and understanding.
12. Chase your joy
One of my definitions of joy is watching my son grow, learn and develop in his own way. Another is being curled up with a great book, hot coffee, a blanket and a vibrating cat on my lap. I feel calm, at peace, like everything is right in the world.
What brings you joy? Once you define what that is, start using your energy to chase your joy. My home is rarely as clean as it used to be. Cleaning does not bring me joy. My time is better spent on things that do.
13. Walk into your fear
Whatever you are most afraid of, is what you should be paying the most attention to. Our conscious mind will always choose fear to block us from true awareness. Your authentic gifts can be revealed by facing what scares you. Walk into your fear. Walk into your greatness!
Happy Friday the thirteenth to you!!
Today I am grateful for the friendship I have with my ex-husband. For the knowledge that eleven year old boys tend to pull away from their moms somewhat and gravitate toward the male role models in their lives and this is normal. And the calico cat that has been my companion for nineteen years.
Today I send love and blessings to the company that sold my refurbished laptop. It may not be human but it definitely has some issues of its own.
Today I am grateful for the love fest that happened between my son and our Ragdoll act this morning. The price of admission was running ten minutes behind schedule and totally worth it. For thunderstorms. And for books. I love books!
Today I send love and blessings to the architectural team who created the drawings I am trying to work with at my day job. Smiling through gritted teeth.
Today I am grateful for my beautiful sister. For occasional playtime with my son, who grows more independent with each day. And for awesome co-workers.
Today I send love and blessings to the father of my fabulous niece.
Today I am grateful for free on-line classes and lectures. For being able to see the sun rising above the dam when leaving for work. And for great neighbors.
Today I send love and blessings to the driver who was so impatient at the red light that he felt it necessary to blast his horn right outside my open car window.
Today I am grateful for my black and white cat who is always ready for a snuggle right after my alarm goes off in the morning. For umbrellas. And for my cell phone.
Today I send love and blessings to that roofer, again, as I prepare the letter reminding him that his payment is late, again.
Today I am so happy and grateful that my roof is not leaking with all this rain. That my thirty year old garage door opener still works. And for the smell of early morning rain.
Today I send love and blessings to anyone who thinks suing someone over contracting a STI to get revenge or monetary gain is acceptable.
Today I am grateful for mornings that don’t require an alarm. For homemade banana muffins. And for the pure bred Ragdoll cat that we were able to adopt at our local humane society.
Today I send love and blessings to my tendency to procrastinate.
Please check out last weeks gratitude journal here.
Today I am grateful for: Facebook and the connection to old friends it provides. Motherhood, which is the best thing I have ever done. Jeans, yesterday’s temp was in the nineties but today it is only in the sixties.
Today I send love and blessings to the roofer who scammed me out $2700.00 two years ago and is paying me back very slowly.
Today I send love and blessings to all of the ignorant haters that have caused these beautiful women pain and torment.
Today I am grateful for metaphorical puzzle pieces. Those fragments of ideas that don’t make much sense on their own but that I instinctively know will be valuable later on. Motherhood, which is the absolute most difficult and challenging thing I have ever done. Inner wisdom and knowing how to find it!
Today I send love and blessings to anyone who thinks I’m nuts. I can live with that. Your opinion counts too. Maybe I am.
Today I am grateful for being able to laugh when I spilled my coffee this morning….onto myself, the counter, the floor, the rug and the cat! Ha! Minor setback, not a major tragedy. The creative ideas that fill my head upon waking. The game of Earth (life).
Today I send blessings to President Donald Trump, the NFL and anyone who is unable to tolerate another’s view or how they choose to express it.
Today I am grateful for the people who have come before me and paved the way. Fridays at home. Hot pumpkin spice coffee. Yum!
Today I send love and blessings to my fears, my judgements and my negativity!
Today I am thankful for subtle intuitive messages and the ability to grasp them. The blessing of being able to live close to a small lake. The occasional afternoon nap. I will be wanting one of these later today.
Today I send love and blessings to the learning curve I am experiencing to trying to get this blog launched!