Wisdom Wednesday

I am so excited about this audio! It is Everyday Wisdom by Wayne Dyer. I’m not sure how it came to me but I am compelled to share it with you. I have been listening to this amazing wisdom daily for about ten days and I have become quite attached. I hope you enjoy!!

How to use the Energy of Crystals for your Spiritual Growth

Have you ever wondered how to use the Energy of crystals for spiritual growth and well-being? Then you are in the right place! This is my obsession right now and I have been doing some intense research.

Welcome to week five of my Spiritual Journey series; 7 tools in 7 weeks. Thank you for joining me, I am so happy you’re here.

This week we talk about the energy of crystals

Earth is home to more than 4000 naturally occurring minerals. A mineral is an inorganic substance of definite chemical composition and specific crystalline structure.

Most minerals are crystals, but not all. A mineral has one specific chemical composition, where a rock is a mixture of minerals. Crystals have a repeating geometric molecular pattern.

Quartz is the most prevalent mineral on our planet, making up between 12 and 20 percent of the earth’s crust. That’s a lot of crystal. Mother Earth has been lovingly growing these crystals for millions of years.

Crystals carry the energy of the earth, the moon and the stars. Each crystal has an individual vibration just as we do. There are many ways we can put the energy of crystals to work in our lives.

How can I use my crystals?

Working with chakras:

The powerful energy of crystals can be used to clear and balance the body’s chakras. The seven chakras are our life force energy centers. They run along the spine, from the tail bone to the crown of your head.

Each of the seven chakras has its own healing color associated with it. When using crystals for this purpose, the color of the stone or crystal should correspond to the color of the chakra.

The energy of crystals for chakra balancing

 

 

 

 

 

 

The root chakra is the first energy center, located at the base of the spine. This chakra is associated with the feeling of safety and grounding. The root chakra’s color is red.

When choosing stones or crystals for root chakra work, they should be red or black in color. Some examples you can try would be red jasper, garnet, bloodstone, black onyx or black tourmaline.

The second energy center is the sacral chakra, located in the pelvic area. This chakra is associated with sensuality and creativity. The sacral chakra’s color is orange.

There are many great orange stones and crystals to try when working with this chakra. Good examples would be sunstone, carnelian, orange calcite and goldstone.

Moving up the spine:

The solar plexus chakra is our third energy center as we move up the spine and it’s location is right around the navel or belly button. This chakra’s color is yellow and it is associated with confidence, self-esteem and expression of will power.

Some awesome yellow stones to try when working with the solar plexus are citrine, yellow jasper, heliodor and yellow jade.

The heart chakra is our fourth energy center as we continue our way up, of course, located in the center of the chest. This is our love center. It is also the energy center of the chakras with three above and three below. The heart chakra is where the physical and spiritual come together.

The energy of crystals,; chakra stones

Green is the color of the heart chakra, however pink crystals also have great energy for work with this chakra. Some to try might be green aventurine, rose quartz (the love crystal), ruby in zoisite, green calcite, green jade, chrysoprase and emerald.

Moving above the heart to the fifth energy center which is the throat chakra. It is located at the center of the neck, in line with the shoulders. The throat chakra is associated with self-acceptance and speaking your truth. This chakra’s color is blue.

Many amazing blue stones and crystals are available for working with throat chakra. You might want to try blue calcite, aquamarine, sodalite or blue quartz.

The third eye chakra is the sixth energy center located in the middle of the forehead between the eyebrows. It is the center of intuition, associated with intellect and spiritual insight. The color for this chakra is indigo.

Great crystals and stones to try while working with this chakra might be iolite, lapis lazuli, kyanite, apatite and tanzanite.

The seventh chakra:

Located at the top of our head is the crown chakra. This is the seventh primary energy center. It is associated with enlightenment and spiritual awareness. This powerful chakra is our connection to the Universe and Divine intelligence.

The color for the crown chakra is usually depicted as violet-purple or white. White being beyond color, complete purity of spirit. Crystals with the most powerful vibrations are used when working with the crown chakra.

Most notable would be amethyst and clear quartz, both considered to be master crystals. Other stones and crystals you can try when working with this chakra include charoite, lepidolite and eudialyte.

If you are interested in using crystals to work with your chakra centers, Amazon has sets containing all seven stones you will need. I am an affiliate with Amazon, which means if you make a purchase using my link, I will receive a small commission at no extra cost to you.

Have fun using the energy of crystals to balance your chakra energy centers and remove the blocks that are preventing you from being all you are meant to be!

Up next, using the energy of crystals for meditation:

Adding a crystal to your meditation practice can amplify the energy of your intention. You can hold the crystal in your hand during your meditation or place it close by. You may also want to try using the crystal as the focus of your attention by placing it in front of you and meditating with your eyes open.

Choose your crystal based on what you are wanting to work on or resolve within yourself. Some research into the many healing properties attributed to different crystals may be required.

For more information on how to start a solid meditation practice, see the first post in my Spiritual Journey Series.

Meditating with one of the chakra crystals mentioned above would be a great way to start. If you are already comfortable with using crystals for your meditation, you may want to try using all seven chakra stones.

To do this you will lie down on your back for the meditation. Place each stone on your body in the corresponding location of the chakra with the matching color.

As you follow your breath, spend a couple of minutes concentrating on each chakra center, beginning with the root chakra and working your way up to the crown chakra.

Massage therapy using the energy of crystals:

Crystal massage can be done with either a crystal massage wand or a smooth polished massage stone. No special talent is required to perform a massage using crystals, however some research may be required into the type of crystal you want to use.

There are many books and websites available to research the individual healing properties and energies of different stones and crystals.

A crystal massage wand is a stone or crystal with a slender cylinder shape that may be smooth or faceted. The wand will normally have a pointed end and a rounded end.

A crystal massage stone could be a palm sized smooth polished crystal, a crystal sphere or ball or a crystal roller. Choose a crystal massage tool that resonates with you. Your intuition will lead you to the perfect item for your needs.

Crystal grids:

What is a crystal grid? A crystal grid is a structured arrangement of multiple crystals used to combine, enhance and magnify the energies of the crystals used.

the energy of crystal grids

You may want to consider using a crystal grid if you have not been able to achieve your goal using a single crystal.

A crystal grid will include three to five different types of crystals and may contain other elements such as flowers or candles. Let your intuition guide you.

In the center of your grid will be the focus stone. This crystal will collect source energy and funnel it into your grid. The next stones in the grid are called way stones. They are the middle men between your focus stone and your desire stones. The outer stones of your grid will be your desire stones. These represent what you are desiring as your final outcome.

When choosing your grid crystals, begin with the desire stones. This will likely be whatever stone you were working with to achieve your desired result prior to assembling a grid. Next choose your way stones. Polished or tumbled stones with saturated color work well here.

The way stones are the intermediate between your desired result and the source energy that will provide it. The way stone energy will represent the steps necessary to accomplish your goal.

Finally you may choose your focus stone. Choose a stone that will amplify the energy of the other grid crystals. Clear quartz is always a great focus crystal but there are many other options.

Activating your grid:

Before assembling your grid, be sure to cleanse both your space and the crystals you plan to use. If you are into Feng Shui, you may want to locate your grid in the area of your home or office that relates to your desired outcome.

A sacred geometry pattern may be used for the placement of your grid crystals such as the flower of life pattern. If using a cloth, choose colors that coordinate with the grid crystals.

Assemble your grid by placing the crystals from the inside out starting with the focus stone. Write your intention or desired outcome on a small piece of paper and place it under the focus stone.

Activate your grid using a wand or quartz point. Standing or sitting next to your grid, hold the wand in your hand and focus on your intention for the grid. Slowly move the wand above each grid crystal, connecting them and there energies.

Leave your crystal grid in place for at least forty days.

If you would like to read the other posts in this series, I have included links below.

Have fun using the energy of crystals and I hope all of your dreams come true!!!

Week one – How to create a solid meditation practice

Week two – Daily soul writing for your spiritual journey

Week three – Using positive affirmations to kick the negative self-talk habit

Week four – What is mirror work and how can it help me?

Week six – Try a manifestation box instead of a vision board

Week seven – Pay attention to your inner guidance

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fear and Childhood Trauma – My Story

No parent intentionally screws up their children’s development. Even so, I have never met a human being without issues to overcome. Of course, not all childhood trauma comes from our parents. It may stem from teachers, peers, other relatives, neighbors or even strangers.

Overall I think the vast majority of us learn our patterns from our parents. Some of those patterns may be positive, but many will be negative. These unhealthy patterns can last a lifetime because most of us don’t realize that they even exist, much less, that the patterns need correcting.

It’s important to remember that each of us is only doing the very best we can at any given moment, that includes our parents while they were raising us. That being said, I picked up some pretty undesirable stuff from both my mom and my dad. I love them with all my heart, but these are things I must face if I truly want to heal.

I guess a bit of background is in order before I really get started. My parents were divorced when I was five years old. My sister and I lived with our mother and spent every other weekend with our father, for the first few years, anyway.

My father remarried almost immediately after the divorce. He and his new family moved to another state when I was about eight years old. I didn’t get to see my dad again for six years.

Not only did my mother not have any skills required for a career, she also suffered from Multiple Sclerosis which prevented her from working full-time. My sister and I were raised on a welfare disability check.

The entire situation created some intensely difficult and conflicting emotions. Emotions I really had no good way to deal with as a child.

My mother had become very ill by the time I was eleven years old. Her disease progressed from that point, taking more and more of her livelihood until we were forced to move her into a nursing home when I was sixteen years old. She was just forty-five at the time.

During those five years preceding the nursing home, my sister and I cared for our mom the best we could. It was a lot of responsibility for two young girls to handle.

We certainly learned many useful skills of household management we otherwise may not have mastered at such an early age. We also rebelled against our situation every chance we got.

Always searching for that opportunity to be free of our responsibility and feel like children again, we both tended to “adopt” our friend’s parents as our own.

I grew up viewing my mother as a saint and my father, well, he bolted and I was very angry. Let’s just say I wasn’t very fond of my dad back then. I wanted to hate him, but I couldn’t. He was my dad and I loved him. So I blamed him instead, for pretty much everything.

No matter how much I admired my mother for what she endured and her determination to raise us, our relationship was upside down and backwards. The parent is supposed to care for the child, not the other way around.

This type of family dynamic can, and in my case did, create some codependency issues. I am a caretaker by the nature of my upbringing. I have always struggled with setting boundaries and taking care of myself. Everyone else’s needs always seemed to come first.

We were also very poor, living below the poverty line. My mom did a fantastic job with what little money we had, but there was never enough. Two undesirable lessons came from this unfortunate situation.

My mom always went without so that my sister and I could have what we needed. So, of course, my sister and I learned this strategy from her and brought it with us into our own adult lives.

The second was the lesson of lack. When a child grows up knowing, or being told, consistently, that there isn’t enough money, safety, food or anything else, that child will learn lack. It is a lesson that is extremely hard to let go of.

Although I am educated, I have a career, and I make a decent wage, it still feels like a struggle to make ends meet. It always feels like there just isn’t enough. I feel lack as an adult because that is what I learned as a child.

My father and I didn’t have much of a relationship when I was young. Between the ages of eight and twenty-three, I spent two weeks with him total and that’s it. We would talk on the phone and occasionally write letters. I always wanted him to be proud of me, even if I was hating on him.

My mother passed away when I was twenty-five and I realized I only had one parent left. I decided I wanted to make the best of that and try to repair my relationship with my dad.

So for the last twenty-five years my dad and I have been okay. We still live in different states, but we see each other more often. He is proud of me and he says so. Yet, I am still fairly uncomfortable around him.

Why? Because he doesn’t really know who I am. He has some strong beliefs and opinions about life and so do I. The problem? Our values don’t match, in fact, they probably couldn’t be farther apart.

I’m fine with his views and who he is, it’s all good, but my childhood fear of being abandoned by my father still exists today. I am afraid to be myself with him for fear he will reject me.

And the cherry on top is I really don’t like that I feel this way. The admission alone took a tremendous amount of effort. And I know, on some unconscious level, that I am beating myself up for not being able to overcome this fear.

My hope is that by putting this out into the world I will release some of my fear and begin to heal. Begin the process of forgiveness. Me forgiving my dad, for only being able to do his best at any given time. Me forgiving me and treating myself with kindness when I am not as far along my path as I would like to be.

Peace and love.

 

 

 

 

What do your favorite stones and gems say about your journey?

The connection between humans and crystals is as old as time itself. Crystals have been used throughout history for jewelry, armour and other adornments. They have even been found in ancient grave sites, apparently intended to accompany the deceased into the next life.

Stones (crystals) and gems come directly from the Earth and have undergone their own process of transformation. They contain their own energy and vibrations just as we do. Throughout the ages crystals have been believed to have the power to influence our own energies and have been used to promote health and healing, for protection, to attract love and to attain inner wisdom.

There are times you may be drawn to a certain stone or gem and times when the crystal you require finds you, such as when you receive one as a gift.

I’d like to share with you some of my favorite crystals, how they came to be in my life and a brief description of the stone’s qualities. Feel free to click the link on each if you would like to know more.

 Most children like rocks and I was no exception. I remember a rather large piece of Rose Quartz I found as a young girl. I’m sure it wasn’t a naturally occurring substance in my neighborhood. I don’t know where it came from or how it got there, just that it ended up in my hands and I was very fond of it. 

This was quite possibly my very first experience with crystals.  I no longer have this piece, but the memory of it has never left me.

Rose Quartz is considered to be the stone of unconditional love. It carries a soft, feminine energy of compassion and peace. Dissolving emotional wounds, fears and resentments, Rose Quartz allows one the capacity to truly give and receive love from others.

My love affair with the Opal began early in life. It isn’t my birthstone, my birthday is in August so I’m a Peridot. Both my mother and sister have October birthdays, but neither seemed to embrace the Opal as I have.

I had always heard that the Opal was bad luck if it was not your birthstone. I either didn’t believe it or I didn’t care. I wanted an Opal.

My first Opal was a ring gifted to me in my late teen years. The stone was lost when it came loose from the setting and my boyfriend had to replace it. The replacement Opal was even more stunning than the original, but after a short time, the entire ring fell down the sink drain and was not recovered even after removing the pipes to look for it.

I decided that maybe there was more to the bad luck rumors than I thought. Or perhaps my subconscious mind had believed the rumor all along. Either way, I gave up on the Opal, for a very long time.

After my divorce in 2009, my love of the Opal resurfaced. It began with a pair of earrings, I purchased for myself. I was then gifted a beautiful loose Opal by a neighbor, which I later had set in yellow gold with a pink tourmaline and citrine to match the earrings.

The following year I received, as a gift, the most amazing piece of jewelry I own. A bracelet containing seven opals and eight mother of pearl set in Sterling silver.

The Opal inspires love and hope, innocence and purity as well as luck and happiness. Mother of pearl is a stone of protection and it stimulates clarity and intuition. As for my birth stone, the Peridot, it has some very interesting energies I would not have expected.

While some Peridot are born of Earth, others have extraterrestrial origins, found in rare meteorites and comet dust. Peridot promotes responsibility, forgiveness, self-worth and inner-radiance.

Shortly after moving across the country, in my early twenties, my best friend and soul sister gave me a small polished Malachite stone to keep in my pocket.

I still have this blessed gift in my possession. Malachite is a stone of transformation, aiding one with changing situations and personal growth. What an appropriate gift!

On my forty-sixth birthday I received a Blue Sapphire ring, set in white gold. This was my very first Sapphire, of any color.

To the ancient and medieval world, the Blue Sapphire signified the height of celestial hope and faith, believed to bring protection, good fortune and spiritual insight.

Most recently I have been crazy about the Pink Tourmaline. This pink gemstone infuses love and spirituality and  encourages compassion and gentleness during times of changes and growth.

I encourage you to explore the meaning and energies of the crystals and gemstones that have chosen you and influenced your own journey. crystalvaults.com is a great resource for your research and discovery. The website has a wealth of information available on each type of crystal. It’s definitely worth a visit.