Wisdom Wednesday

I am so excited about this audio! It is Everyday Wisdom by Wayne Dyer. I’m not sure how it came to me but I am compelled to share it with you. I have been listening to this amazing wisdom daily for about ten days and I have become quite attached. I hope you enjoy!!

What is Mirror Work and how can it help me?

Hi. Welcome to Week four of my Tools for your Spiritual Journey series. I am so happy you’re here. This week’s post is about Mirror Work. This is the perfect follow-up to last week’s post on affirmations.

What is Mirror Work exactly?

Mirror work is a very powerful practice for your journey that basically involves saying affirmations to yourself in a mirror. This may sound hokey to many of you and downright frightening to others.

Of all of the tools I now use, this one is my favorite and it also the practice I always show up for. I do this everyday, without fail. I believe mirror work is absolutely key to learning to truly love who you are.

Louise Hay was famous for practicing and teaching mirror work. She is the author of many books on the subject. She says “mirror work is the most effective method I have found for learning to love yourself and see the world as a safe and loving place.”

Robert Holden, Ph.D, was a student of Louise Hay who has taken up the teaching of mirror work himself. Robert says “you won’t find what you have been looking for until you look in the mirror.” And I couldn’t agree more.

Who can benefit by practicing mirror work?

I think everyone can gain more appreciation of self by doing this work. Those who suffer from low self-worth or low self-esteem will certainly benefit from doing this practice on a regular basis.

If you cringe at the thought of looking into your own eyes and saying “I am beautiful” or “I am smart”, “I am worthy”, or Louise’s favorite, “I am loveable”, then mirror work is definitely for you.

Do this! Face your fear. You are so much more than you believe!

Are you in? Awesome!

I was first introduced to mirror work in Janet Conner’s book, Writing down your soulThis is a wonderful place to start for many of the tools in this series of posts. In her book she encourages you to start by looking in the mirror and telling yourself “I am precious, I am important”.

She admits that this was too much for her when she began and had to kind of side glance at the mirror to get the words out. After much practice, however, she was able to look at herself straight on and say the words. Just as you will be able to if you keep at it.

I began my own mirror work with “I am beautiful”. For me this is not so much about physical beauty as it is seeing my inner beauty. I do believe that most of us focus on our flaws when we look in the mirror and telling ourselves we are beautiful, sexy, gorgeous or handsome can shift the focus off of what we consider to be less than desirable.

Shortly after starting my mirror work practice, I listened to the audio book Life Loves You by Robert Holden and Louise Hay. Now I was really hooked. This stuff works!

Learning from the best…

Louise Hay says “positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, and creating peace of mind and inner joy.

Robert Holden offers his loving yourself free video series, focusing on mirror work. I have watched the entire series and I highly recommend. I tweaked my own practice to incorporate some of what I learned from Robert in this series. As he begins the first video, he says

“The one piece of equipment you need is a mirror. Any mirror will do. Make sure you give it a good polish before you begin. You are about to meet the most important person in your life”.

I love that! It is so true. Truly loving anyone else is not possible until you can learn to truly love yourself. Once you have done that, everything else will begin to fall into place.

If you would like to read the other posts in this series, I have included links below.

Thank you for reading!

Week one – How to create a solid meditation practice

Week two – Daily soul writing for your spiritual practice

Week three – Using positive affirmations to kick the negative self-talk habit

Week five – How to use the energy of crystals for your spiritual growth

Week six – Try a manifestation box instead of a vision board

Week seven – Pay attention to your inner guidance

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Use Positive Affirmations to Kick the Negative Self-talk Habit

Welcome to week three of seven of my Tools for your spiritual journey series. I am so happy you are here. This week’s tool is positive affirmations.

What are positive affirmations and negative self-talk?

Each of us has an inner monologue going on constantly inside our heads. We may not even realize this is happening. This is our self-talk and it seems to never run out of gas.

Unfortunately most us engage in much more negative self-talk than positive.  Thinking or even saying things like “I’m not good enough, smart enough or attractive enough to accomplish that.”

We are usually our own worst critics. And sometimes our inner voice can be a real asshole! Negative self-talk can become a habit and it can create troublesome issues in our lives. Anxiety, low self-esteem and even depression can stem from the way we talk to ourselves.

That is where daily positive affirmations can help. An affirmation is the assertion that something exists or is true. We are always affirming something with every thought we think and every word we say.

An affirmation opens the door. It’s a beginning point on the path to change.    Louise L. Hay

Why do positive affirmations work?

Our subconscious mind believes whatever we tell it. It can’t and won’t differentiate between the good and the bad. If we can change the words, we can change the way we feel.

Louise Hay explains in her book Experience your good nowthat when you state an affirmation, you are really saying to your subconscious mind: ‘I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.’

It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.”    Claude M. Bristol

Just because you have negative self-talk going on does not mean you are a bad person or wrong in any way. We all do it. It is time to stop doing it. Kick the guilt to the curb. You are an amazing, beautiful, miracle of life. Treat yourself gently and with love. You do not deserve your own abuse.

How to get started with positive affirmations:

The first step is to recognize your negative thought patterns. What are you saying to yourself? I’ve found the practice of meditation to be the easiest way for me to become more aware of my thoughts.

I wrote about meditation in Week One of this series. You can check out that post if you are interested in seeing what starting a meditation practice can do for you.

My introduction to affirmations was through Janet Conner and her book Writing Down Your SoulI mention her in my post for Week Two of this series on soul writing. I highly recommend.

As I progressed on my journey, I discovered Louise Hay, extraordinary teacher, healer, speaker, author and queen of positive affirmations. She has become a most inspirational teacher for me.

Please visit her website where you can look through some of her uplifting positive affirmations. Choose a few that resonate with you and begin saying them to yourself every day.

What can you expect positive affirmations to do for you?

Daily positive affirmations can be used to create self-love and to attract the abundance we desire and deserve into our lives. The key is to remain absolutely positive. This can be incredibly challenging.

If you are outwardly saying something positive, but the thought in your mind is contradicting it, the affirmation isn’t going to work. If you notice this happening to you, keep trying. Just as with anything else, it will become easier with practice.

One of my first affirmations was ‘I am Beautiful’.  My journey began a few months before I turned fifty and I was feeling a bit negative about my physical appearance.

Seven months later…I feel beautiful, inside and out. It makes no difference what clothes I have on, if my hair is done or if I am wearing make-up. I love what I see in the mirror!

What if your chosen affirmation is too much for you right now?

That’s totally fine. No worries. Your affirmation just requires a little bit of tweaking. Let’s say you have chosen ‘I love my body’ as your daily positive affirmation, but every time you think or say it, you cringe.

Obviously your mind is not accepting this affirmation as is. You must have at least a modest level of comfort with the thought you are creating. I would adjust this affirmation to ‘I am open to loving my body today’. You could also try ‘I have a healthy body that serves me well’.

Choose one that is acceptable to you now. As you become more comfortable with that thought you can up your game and choose a new affirmation to try.

Maybe you feel like you never have enough money. Affirming these thoughts will surely only bring more lack into your life. This has been a problem for me lately too.

Instead of concentrating on the months or weeks or even days ahead. I say to myself ‘Today I have all the money I need’. When my son asks for something we can’t afford right now, I don’t tell him that we don’t have enough money. I calmly say ‘we will have more money for that next month’ knowing that I am giving my subconscious mind instructions to make that happen.

Along with gratitude and forgiveness, positive affirmations have been working miracles in my life. I hope you have even more success!

If you would like to read the other posts in this series, I have included links below.

Thank you for reading!

Week one – How to create a solid meditation practice

Week two – Daily soul writing for your spiritual practice

Week four  – What is mirror work and how can it help me?

Week five – How to use the energy of crystals for your spiritual growth

Week six – Try a manifestation box instead of a vision board

Week seven – Pay attention to your inner guidance