My child’s soul – What is my role?

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When it comes to my child’s soul, I can get very confused as to what my role should be. The human part of me wants to correct and protect, while I know deep within myself that he has his own agenda, his very own lessons that he signed on to learn in this lifetime.

I think most parents try to pass on what they have learned, in their own life experience, to their offspring, in hopes of saving them some trials and heartache. It is my belief, however,  that our souls choose to incarnate on this earth for the purpose of growth, learning and connection.

What if my child’s soul knows more than mine does?

Even the most illuminated of parents likely have a difficult time seeing their children as infinite beings. I am becoming more comfortable with this notion each day.

My son is eleven, and sometimes, I swear he could be forty-five! I have absolutely no doubt that I am learning far more from him than he is from me. I think my child’s soul has been around the block a few times.

So here we are, my son and I, two souls on a mission, here on Earth. Our missions may be intertwined, or not. It’s possible our souls have been reincarnating together over many lifetimes. Maybe he was the parent, and I was the child in a previous lifetime.

What is my child’s soul teaching me right now?

Look, I don’t know about you, but of all the people in my life, my kid knows better than anyone else how to push my buttons.

I can be having the best day of my life. I’m flying around on my own shooting star. I’m dancing and twirling through life. I am maintaining this incredibly high vibration, and then…I pick up my child from school.

He is whining and he wants this and he wants that. He is being disrespectful in public and pushing the absolute limits of my sanity. Can you relate to this situation? I bet you can, we have all been there, right?

Life is always our mirror. It makes complete sense that our children will reflect back to us, the things we aren’t appropriately dealing with in our own lives.

What I’m working on and how my child’s soul has upped the ante.

My focus, all day, everyday, is more self-love, more gratitude and more forgiveness, raising my vibration and shining my light. So what is the best way for me to deal with my son’s preteen attitude that sent me tumbling from my shooting star?

Definitely NOT the way I actually did. I got angry and made threats, that he is smart enough to know I won’t keep. And when he was ready to apologize, I wouldn’t accept it. Now we are both upset, hurt and angry with each other.

Sure, it happens and I’m truly okay with it. Open expression of feelings is always welcome in my house. I intentionally make sure my son knows that no matter how angry we get with each other, I love him with everything that I am. NOTHING can EVER change that.

What could I have done better?

I could have forgiven sooner, knowing that forgiveness will benefit my own well-being as well as his. Or not worried so much about what other people might think of me as a parent. If my child had behaved this way at home, rather than in public, I may not have reacted the same way.

I could have realized my anger was more about my own insecurities as a parent than it was about his behavior. Maybe I could have approached the situation from a viewpoint of gratitude. The truth is, I am extremely grateful for the experience of motherhood and all the challenges it brings.

My final conclusion:

We all have a purpose here on Earth. Sometimes we will teach our children. More often, they will teach us. Your child may be an old soul that you have been traveling with for a very long time. That soul deserves your respect and attention.

It may even benefit us to allow our child’s soul to lead from time to time. Who knows what we may learn.

The best I can do for my son is to lead by example. Try to allow him some space to shine his own light. Accept and acknowledge that his inner wisdom comes from the same source mine does. Remember, that with him, as with everyone else, we are in this together!









Positive Parenting – 20 things every child needs to hear

Our children are the future of this planet. They deserve to be raised with a loving spirit, high self-worth and sense of independence, so that they may make a positive impact on our world. Children are not possessions. They are not mini versions of their parents. Our children don’t exist just to make us look good. Children are young growing human beings in their own right. They have minds of their own. Their thoughts, behaviors and actions do not have to mirror those of their parents. We can encourage our children to express who they are rather than who we wish them to be. Our children have their own paths to follow. Inside each child is a precious gift of individuality. We can help them release this gift to the world. Young children especially are sponges and everything they learn from us now will influence the kind of adult they will become. Let’s try to make it a positive experience.

Here are twenty things I believe every child needs to hear from their parent, in no particular order:

  1. I am sorry. I was wrong.
  2. I forgive you.
  3. Thank you.
  4. You are enough just the way you are.
  5. You are the most amazing human being I have ever met.
  6. I love you no matter what. There is nothing you could ever do to make me stop.
  7. Your dreams are important. I support you!
  8. It’s okay to make mistakes. That is the best way to learn.
  9. Perfection is not important. Loving who you are is.
  10. You are entitled to your own opinions even if they differ from my own.
  11. You have taught me more than I could have ever imagined possible.
  12. This is your responsibility.
  13. You are so good-looking.
  14. I think you are an awesome kid.
  15. I respect you as a person.
  16. You can count on me. I will always be there for you.
  17. Your friends are so lucky to have you in their lives.
  18. It is appropriate to feel whatever is inside you.
  19. All lives matter. Bullying and abuse are not acceptable.
  20. You have what it takes to achieve your goals.